Sex After Menopause: Overcoming Common Issues

During and after menopause, many women report a variety of changes in their sex lives. Fortunately, many of these issues are quite common and have relatively simple home remedies. Here are some of the most common problems women face in the bedroom after menopause and a few ways to overcome them.

#1 – Lack of Libido

A woman’s sex drive is often the direct result of hormones in her body, including estrogen. As such, during and after menopause, when there is far less estrogen to go around, many women report having very little or no libido at all. There are a few ways to combat this, including finding ways to boost your self-esteem, such as buying and wearing some lingerie or even improving your body image with a healthy lifestyle. Women who are comfortable in their own skin often find that sex after menopause becomes more enjoyable.

#2 – Vaginal Dryness

Hormones like estrogen are also responsible for the natural lubricant inside the vagina, so when estrogen is on the decline, vaginal dryness is sure to occur. Although investing in a great water-based lubricant is always a solution, another great way to cope with vaginal dryness (and a waning libido at the same time) is to extend foreplay throughout the day. Small acts of intimacy – kisses, holding hands, hugging – can all help you relax and feel comfortable with your partner. When you are relaxed, your body is better equipped to produce its own natural lubrication.

#3 – Thinning Vaginal Walls

Painful sex after menopause is a common complaint, and more often than not, it is caused by the thinning of the tissues in the vaginal walls. If this is the case for you, be sure to talk to your doctor about a variety of treatments that are available. You might find that bioidentical hormone replacement therapy helps to improve and protect these tissues. There are some non-hormone alternatives for thinning vaginal walls, but they do not work for all women.

#4 – Difficulty in Achieving Orgasm

During and after menopause, blood flow to the vaginal area begins to slow down tremendously. As a result, many women experience having difficulty achieving orgasm. Some therapists and gynecologists recommend having sex regularly to help improve blood flow to the area, which is vital for the sensations that lead to orgasm. There are also a variety of over-the-counter enhancers that can increase your overall sensitivity, which makes sex after menopause much more enjoyable.

#5 – Increased Need for Intimacy

Many women find that their desire for intimacy (and not just sexual intimacy) skyrockets during and after menopause. Some experts believe that the hormonal changes occurring in a woman’s body can leave her feeling vulnerable and filled with self-doubt. If you find yourself feeling blue, don’t be afraid to ask your partner for a hug, to hold hands, or even to cuddle while watching your favorite television shows. Sometimes, these small acts of intimacy are all it takes to improve your overall well-being – and your sex life, by proxy.

If you are concerned about sex after menopause, or if you are having issues in the bedroom that you can’t seem to resolve on your own, be sure to talk to your doctor about your options. Creams, gels, and even bioidentical hormone replacement therapy can all help, as can taking steps to improve your overall health and wellbeing.